2. GET IDEAS FOR YOUR OWN VOWS

Carry a notebook with you to jot down notes and memories that may come up at unexpected times. Or, brainstorm with your loved one over a bottle of wine about the time you've spent together. Another method to getting your ideas on paper is to use stream of consciousness. Take out a sheet of paper and write every single thing that pops into your head. Be careful not to exclude any ideas. This technique uses the creative part of your brain and becoming critical could defeat the process.

Now that you have all of your ideas accessible, ask yourself some questions. What makes him/her unlike any one else? Why do you want to marry him/her? What do you hope to give? What do you hope to receive? Use this information to discuss who he/she is, who you are and what your expectations and visions are of the future. Decide what the main message is that you'd like to convey.